Gay Marriage - it already happens everyday so people need to get over their fear.

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how easily you call majority rule 'mob' rule..just show your true colors and shoot anybody that doesn't agree with you
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Great post, thank you KatieKat
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A wonderfully written post, Katie. Thank you.

California now looks to its Supreme Court to decide if their recent voter-approved ban on gay marriage is constitutional.

How insane are you, "voter approved ban" they amended the Constitution. The Supreme Court has to rule by the Constitution not on wether the Constitution is Constitutional.

I am curious...Would you think it would be okay for state voters to approve an amendment that places a ban on bi-racial marriages?

I do find it funny that it is predominantly conservatives republicans that are against "activist judges". Could you imagine the uproar if we the people of the lower classes joined together to vote on an amendment to the constitution that stripped conservatives of their voting rights and the rich of their money. They would be begging for the "activist judges".

Katie, There are several problems with the issue of gay marriage. First, the issue is political; unlike equality under law for women or minorities. Gays have sought, and claimed, they are a "minority" for years. And with minority status are deserving of favourtism as prescribed by law. Secondly, the push for gay marriage is really about gaining the privileges and advantages of a married couple. And lastly, such recognition is begging for abuse beyond belief.

While in simplistic form the above are the problems with wholesale recognition of gay marriage. And we haven't even touched on the moral and religious implications of the issue.

Like many of the liberal agendas being rammed down American's throats this will only continue to weaken, and eventually destroy, what has made America great.

Apparently, we deserve it since we, as a nation, keep voting in these radicals.

I am curious? How do you think that the right for same sex couples to marry would be abused? Do you think that same sex individuals marry for insurance, monetary gain, for citizenship, etc? I am sure there ARE same sex indiviuals that will marry for selfish abusive reason. However, there are straight "couples" abusing the marriage privilege for the same reasons. Everyday straight couples are marrying for money, stupidity, status, societal standing, tax avoidance, citizenship, etc. So why is it suddenly a problem that a few same sex couples would do the same?

The religious issue is irrelevant. If your church doesn't agree - don't marry them in your church. I respect a religions right to teach whatever values it wants. There are plenty of religions and even Christian denominations that WILL marry gay couples without yours. So why should your church get to dictate religious practices to others? I won't even touch on the whole separation fo church and state issue.

Nobody is ramming gay marriage down your throat. In fact, if you are completely heterosexual a gay person's marriage should be irrelevant to you and you life. A gay couple marrying does not hurt you in any way shape or form. So why do you let it stress you out so much?

Marriage is a constantly changing institution. There is no static tradition to it because it adapts to cultural norms. What began as a property exchange between men has evolved and will continue to evolve.

Perhaps that is the problem, K. No men are involved so it can't be a property exchange between men. ;)

Some people defend that as a biological thing, just like you aren't allowed to marry your cousin... Marriage almost always assumes children for some reason. Hubby and I argue continuously about gays raising children... Such arguments usually end with both of us saying to the other "Good thing you're not in charge."

I oppose marriage for anyone. It grants too many people (like your significant other) too many privledges.

"Marriage is a constantly changing institution. There is no static tradition to it because it adapts to cultural norms. What began as a property exchange between men has evolved and will continue to evolve."

You hit the nail on the head. Or rather the problem. Marriage, like the US Constitution, should NOT be a continually evolving institution. There is nothing wrong with tradition and consistency in society. Moral relativism will be the downfall of this country.

There are those who never got over rebelling against their parents. This does not give them the right to negatively change society as adults just because they're pissed at their parents still.

And while I'm one who believes that there are those born with homosexual tendencies I also believe, and have witnessed, that homosexuality/bi-sexuality is nothing more than a way to rebel against societal norms. After "experimenting" for a few years or so they end up marrying and having kids. And BEFORE you scream bloody murder, I have witnessed this process way too often in college and in life in general.

So, it is disingenious, and plain incorrect, to state statistically that everyone who has had a homosexual experience is gay. Hell, just look at Anne Heche as proof.

Katie, you have the same rights as I do when it comes to marriage. Marriage defined as one man and one woman. Same rights, now what are you asking for, one man and one man or one woman and one woman. How about one man and four women. You are asking for special rights. Why don't you take the libertarian view and change the laws removing the State and the Law from having any say about marriage at all.

Katie Kat you gorgeous Leftist you. I thought you were telling me the truth when you sent this post with a "I know you like this post."

:-)

Have a blessed Resurrection day in the Lord Jesus Christ.

LOL...theway! I was lazy and didn't update teh prefab message.

Thank you for the compliment though!

We will most assuredly enjoy the most important of Christian holidays! I have a special lesson for my teen sunday school class, an egg hunt and dinner with the fam planned!

It's so sad that some people are so narrow-minded they think a radical is someone who believes all human beings should have the same rights. Tsk tsk tsk.

KK. what kind of logic is it that says X is already happening all around, so we had better get used to it?

Think of all the stuff that logic might apply to. Cancer. Pornography. Child labor. People driving twice the speed limit. Junk food. Does the logic apply or not apply in each case?

Is it good logic?

Math....

Please tell me you didn't just compare the marriage of two consenting adults that love each other and want to live in a monogamous, caring relationship to cancer, porn, and child slaves.....

If it is a good thing, then come up with some good logic to support it. Bad logic will not help a good thing (unless you are dealing with irrational people).

Using YOUR logic, you could support ANYTHING, including those in my list.

"Cancer is all around us, so you'd better get used to it."


she is pretty though
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Computer-generated clouds roil on an apocalyptic backdrop as fake lightning flashes. Actors stiff as zombies recite horror stories, punctuated by protestations that they are animated by love. Is this new political ad warning of the economic hardships confronting families, a call to action on health care or job loss? Is it an effort to unite Americans to help solve our shared problems?

No, it's the latest assault on gay couples seeking to build and spend their lives together in - cue spooky music - marriage

The ad was unveiled by the National Organization "for" Marriage ("NOM"), which ironically is against marriage for committed couples if they are gay. It's brought to you by the folks who brought California the 40-plus million dollar Proposition 8 attack campaign, including the same front-group for right-wing funders and church hierarchies, and the same political consultant/public relations firm. Now that the unanimous Supreme Court in Iowa and a super-majority of elected legislators in Vermont voted to end same-sex couples' exclusion from marriage in the past week, NOM and its backers are funneling the ad into states such as Maine, New Jersey, and New York — whose legislatures are all weighing the evidence that shows no good reason for denying the freedom to marry to same-sex couples.

But beware: the NOM campaign is bait-and-switch. The real agenda here is not just resistance to marriage rights, it's undermining the broader civil rights laws that ensure that we can all participate equally in society, even if other people don't like us. Though they wrap it in marriage, the opposition is actually about gay - and they are attacking the idea that civil rights laws should protect against discrimination based on sexual orientation at all.

At a time when most Americans have had their fill of years of polarization and want to see us come together to deal with the pressing problems that hurt us all, gay and non-gay, could a negative ad campaign like NOM's work? Who would buy these obvious scare-tactics?

Alas, too many. NOM's public relations roll-out has already had some temporary traction in changing the subject from the merits of the case for marriage equality to the politics of this ongoing civil rights battle. And the agenda of the groups behind NOM is even more scary than just another cruel attack on gay couples' freedom to marry. The campaign to "defend" marriage (as if marriage needed "defense" against couples seeking to marry) and to block even partnership protections for gay families masks an effort to erode the whole idea of civil rights laws.

Consider what the actors in the NOM ad pretend to be:

A doctor who wants to discriminate against her patients, despite civil rights laws and medical ethics that the California Supreme Court upheld - in a case having nothing to do with marriage.

An officer of a New Jersey group that for years voluntarily operated a beachside pavilion with special tax-breaks that required it be open to the public - but then tried to turn down a lesbian couple. The case did not turn on marriage, since New Jersey doesn't yet allow gay couples to marry, but, rather, basic civil rights laws about open access to public accommodations.

A Massachusetts parent who sought to dictate public school curriculum about the diverse families children will need to be aware of to thrive in a diverse world, and then wanted to remove her child from classes in a way that would have disrupted class and imposed unreasonable burdens on the school and other kids.

The law in California, as elsewhere, is that doctors can't discriminatorily refuse to treat patients — Christian, Muslim, or Jewish, gay or non-gay; that has nothing to do with marriage, and yet NOM incites fear. The law in New Jersey, as elsewhere, says that organizations running public accommodations such as restaurants or rental halls cannot discriminatorily exclude people — African American, Latino, or Asian, gay or non-gay; that has nothing to do with marriage, and yet NOM says that the discriminators are somehow the victims. The law in Massachusetts, as elsewhere, of course allows parents to teach their kids whatever they want, and even to send them to private schools or do home-schooling. The law also rightly sets rules for determining public school curriculum without having every parent, or special interest with an agenda, coming in and imposing their views on everyone else's kids — yours or mine, gay or non-gay.

These have nothing to do with marriage, and yet NOM would have public schools pretend that gay people don't exist or, even worse, teach all kids that it is okay to look down on people who are different (including the parents of some of their classmates, and even other students themselves). The Human Rights Campaign issued a thorough refutation of the ad's deceptions. In a remarkable expose, HRC's EndtheLies.org website revealed the audition tapes for the NOM's attack ad, with actors stumbling through the scripts, reciting disproven claims about gay people as a threat.

All of NOM's actors are invoking as supposed arguments against the freedom to marry examples that, as HRC puts it, "involve religious people who enter the public sphere, but don't want to abide by the general non-discriminatory rules everyone else does." But in a complicated world, where lots of people "disapprove" of other people's beliefs and lives, or race and religion, we can't allow our ability to have a job or a home, or get medical care or a marriage license, turn on whether our boss, landlord, doctor, or government clerk likes us. If we did, we'd have chaos. The point of civil rights laws is to make it possible for all of us to live together in one nation.

This past week, the Vermont legislature and the unanimous Iowa Supreme Court both offered reassurance that Americans can respect one another's religious freedom while protecting everyone's personal freedom and equality under the law. As Justice Mark Cady, a Republican appointee, explained:

[W]e give respect to the views of all Iowans on the issue of same-sex marriage—religious or otherwise—by giving respect to our constitutional principles....The sanctity of all religious marriages celebrated in the future will have the same meaning as those celebrated in the past. The only difference is civil marriage will now take on a new meaning that reflects a more complete understanding of equal protection of the law. This result is what our constitution requires.
The millions of dollars that NOM and its backers threaten to spend fostering yet another cultural and political war against gay people and threatening civil rights protections would be better spent addressing the real problems facing all our families today. What's truly scary is they don't seem to be feeling that love.
madonana,why do you keep repeating the unanimous iowa supreme court,,5 or 7 people got together and decided what a whole state will do ,this is strange ,if the people have any sense of american freedom they will go to the polls and overturn this law and kick out these despot's who have dictated from the bench ,
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Great post KatieKat.

Of course a human's biological imperative gives them a "disgust" brain function that protected early man from disease that (in conservatives anyway) makes them mistake revulsion for moral offenses. (But telling them this may be like arguing for evolution so don't even bother).

The point is, marriage between two gays (or two heterosexuals) reduces the number of sexual partners a person has and actually reduces the likelihood of spreading STDs so logically conservatives should approve of it.

As someone from Massachusetts I've now lived in a state with gay marriage for quite a while and I'm curious to hear someone argue in what way has Massachusetts crumbled as a result of this ruling.

The storm is coming.

all right miss california............damm i feel better

Don't get me started on that twit. Had she been well-spoken (she stumbled over her words like crazy) and not sought to impose her churches will over the entire nation, she might have won.

She failed at public speaking because she failed to do an audience analysis of the people sitting in front of her and watching on television at home. She could have stated her opinion in a way that was non-offensive but she chose to offend instead.

For instance, she could have said, "My church, my family and I believe that marriage should be be between a man and a woman so it would not be something that I could support." Instead the twit declared that it was not for her or "her nation". As a member of that nation, I really wish twits like that would quit speaking for ME.

Now she is whining that she didn't win. WAH!

that twit,she stumbled because she didn't want to offend any one then she went on to state her feelings and never once did i here her saying these were her christian beliefs just her personnal feeling's..your attempt's to put religion in some nice neat little corner are sickening..just another case of so called liberal's showing off what facist's they really are.but then again that's just a fringe member of the straight community not wanting you forcing your ideas of right and wrong on him.wake up to what you have become in the defense of freedom

1. I am a Christian. I am also a Sunday school teacher. So I don't put religion or God in a corner - anywhere.

2. Yes, I assumed she was Christian. Subsequent interviews with her are what I base that statement on because she has said it was due to her Christian upbringing.

3. If she stumbled because she didn't want to "offend" then she is a worse public speaker than I thought because she failed in every way. She didn't do a proper audience analysis (which could have been done MONTHS ahead of time). She didn't tailor the message in a manner that best reached the audience (she actually offended the audience). She is a miserable public speaker when off-script (lol, sort of like Obama and Bush).

FYI - she has EVERY right to think that gay marriage is not for her. She can state it until she is blue in the face. So do you. So does ANY person in this nation. I will fight for your right to say whatever you want.

However, that does not give you the right to stray from the judgment of other people. She stated something and she was judged. Just like she is judging gay people by dictating that in her world (wait, HER nation) should be second class citizens or better yet, non-existent.

Personally I find it mildly laughable that while people condemn Perez Hilton for asking the question and then stating what he thought of it (after the competition), they celebrate the pretty little straight girl's right to an opinion. Apparently, the only people allowed to have opinions should be members of the mainstream. Ugh, I hate it that people are making me defend PErez because I think his site is trash.)

The answer to that dislike of gay marriage is NOT banning it for gay people. The answer is not legislating separate laws and rules for gay people. The real answer is simply not participating. If you don't like gay marriage - don't marry a gay person!

Face it - pageants are 1000000% subjective. The whims of the judges decide the winner. Apparently, she failed to win the judges over. Perez wasn't the only one there to judge her. In fact, the question portion wasn't the only thing they were judged on and it wasn't even the first (so her answer didn't taint the other scores she received). She lost and she should deal with it.

that you teach sunday school scares me,you have very little chrirstian values,that you want to make this a christian matter scares me, there are more people outside of church that oppose gay marriage then approve it,did you even watch the show,i did they cheered her answer before there was hush in the crowd like someone told them to keep it down.marriage has the sole pupose of bringing a man and a woman together to start a family something gay couples will never be able to do.i have seen the stat's on single sex parenting and they don't even come close to what a tradional family can offer a child,there is something missing in the childs life that show's up again and again.a male and female are needed to enter into marriage and raise children ...why are gay men even judgeing a female beauty pageant this also escapes logic..i have been in a all gay crowd and a tradional opinion is quickly shouted down which just reaffirm's my opinion of liberal's..in the pageant that you feel so strongly about but didn't watch they state that after every round the scores are thrown out and they start new so the question round was the last chance for the [pretty little girl's] to win and as close as the winner was to miss california the deciding factor was the gay judge who had no buisness being there in the first place.i wont call you a dumb c$#t but i will say you need to be better informed
Christians calling Christians non-Christians! That story is not quite as old as various sexual practices usually not blessed by government, but it is a very old story. It is, however, separate - as KK notes - from civil rights like freedom of speech, and freedom of whatever you do in private.

LMFAO!!!!

1. If gay men are to be banned from judging - shouldn't the same be said for straight WOMEN? Seven of the judges were WOMEN (Five of the 12 telecast judges were women and that not counting stupid Perez.) After all, women shouldn't be judging women (unless you're the standard homophobic male that rejects gay males but drools for the chance to have to women in his bed.)

2. There were TWELVE judges. Perez's vote counted for LESS than ten percent. Obviously, her answer offended more than one person on the panel.

3. I won't even go into the "dumb c%$#" comment. It was a standard Perez Hilton comment. Obviously you have never seen that pig's blog. Little Miss Sunshine is not the first to receive one of his lovely diatribes. He goes off on a variety of public figures and comes up with hateful things about all of them (ask people like Lindsey "Fire Crotch" Lohan). this is a guy who draws penises on people's faces! LOL, I just think its funny that people are suddenly noticing that he is a mean puke even though many of the people complaining read his blog daily until this incident.

4. If marriage is only for the purpose of creating a family then I propose the following. All males and females must submit to fertility tests prior to being approved for marriage. Once married, all couples must produce a child within one year of the wedding date. If you are infertile, you are banned from marriage. If you fail to produce a child in the first year, you are fined $10,000 each year until you do so. If you are married more than 5 years and produce no children, you are immediately divorced and lose all rights and privileges. All marriage licenses will be declined for women in menopause since they are to old to have children.

FYI, marriage was invented as a property transfer. Fathers paid men to take their daughters. Lets not go into why marriage was "created". Marriage is an ever evolving concept and let me tell you - Christians didn't invent it and down the patent.

5. I am curious - had she been asked, "Do you think interracial marriages should be allowed?" Would ANY answer been acceptable then? what if she had said, "I know many wonderful negroes but for me, my family and my nation I think interracial marriage is wrong." Would you be cool with that too? After all, it free speech.

if i'm going out for the night i would ask a man what i should wear,i would ask a woman what i should wear,i might even ask a gay man what i should wear but i would never ask a gay women she would most likely not even offer a opinion.if you had watched the show you would have seen how closely the voting was,peraz in all his gay glory cost a girl who was,pretty,smart and engaging the crown.marriage was created to start a family that you think it was some kind of [property transer] speak's of some hidden feminist issues that you need to fix.a marriage between a black and white,asain and white or any combantion have proven to produce children that have become good addition's to the human race gay marriage will never be able to do this..in the town i grew up in,if you got married and had no children your marriage was not considered a real marriage.this gay marriage debate got started for two reason's one being that gay people that stayed together for a long time wanted the same legal right's as straight people which i had no problem with and when vermont came out with civil union's it was a logical solution.the other reason gay's wanted to marry was that so they could adopt children which is completely wrong no child should be raised by a single sex couple the kids will not get a full understanding of life from just a male or female point of view,there needs to be common sense or logic in defense of your choices in live and gay marriage has no common sense to it

"in the town i grew up in,if you got married and had no children your marriage was not considered a real marriage"

That statement speaks volumes about the culture you grew up in and I pity you.

Perhaps you should start a movement across the country that addresses your views on marriage - no kids=fake marriage. You should start by stalking fertility clinics looking for women that are crying as they leave the building. The crying is a good clue that they can't conceive so you can get in their faces and demand that she and her hubby divorce immediately.

Hey, before you start judging children raised in gay households - I suggest you get to know some of those kids. The kids of gay households are just as happy, well-adjusted and normal as those in heterosexual households.

I would suggest you learn about the history of marriage. It was a property exchange between men. Women were traded like cattle for money, prosperity, title, and social standing. Women weren't seen as fully sentient adults - they were child-like babymaking sex toys. Hell, women in this country weren't even considered citizens until less than 100 years ago!

LOL, thanks for spitting out "feminist" like it was a dirty word. It always amuses me that people think that the theory that women are equal to men is a bad thing.

Oh and let me tell you something, gay men know what looks good on women and what a beautiful woman looks like. The aesthetics of beauty aren't limited by gender. Women and men can judge one another even if they aren't sexually attracted to them. For instance, I am a straight woman and I can honestly say that I know when a woman is beautiful or not. A straight man can even tell people whether or not another man is good looking - as long as they are secure in their masculinity.

Again, your response make me feel bad for you.

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